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Everyone has ups and downs — that’s normal.

But there are things you can do to help yourself feel more balanced, cope with stress, and stay connected to the people around you.

What is emotional wellbeing?

Your emotional wellbeing is about:

  • how you feel day to day
  • how you cope when things are tough
  • how you get on with other people

It doesn’t mean feeling happy all the time.
It’s about being able to handle different feelings and knowing what helps you feel better.

Remember

  • It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or worried sometimes
  • Your feelings are valid
  • You’re not alone
  • There is support available if you need it

There are a few key things that can make a big difference to how you feel. Expand the boxes below to find out more.

Surround yourself with people who respect you and value your opinion.

This could be:

  • Friends who listen to you
  • Online communities (where you feel safe and supported)
  • Trusted adults (like a teacher, youth worker, or family member)

You don’t need loads of people — just a few who really listen 🫶

🛑 Set boundaries

It’s OK to protect your space and feelings.

That might mean:

  • Saying no
  • Walking away from situations that don’t feel right
  • Choosing who you share things with

You deserve to be treated with respect.

🎨 Find your way to express yourself

Talking isn’t the only way to feel heard.

You could:

  • Write things down (notes, journaling, messages)
  • Draw, paint, or create something
  • Listen to or make music
  • Create playlists that match your mood

Expressing yourself in different ways can help you process emotions and feel more understood.

❤️ Remember: your voice matters

Your thoughts and feelings are important.

You deserve:

  • To be listened to
  • To be taken seriously
  • To feel understood

When people listen and acknowledge how you feel, it can build confidence and help you feel more secure.

Surround yourself with people who respect you and value your opinion.

This could be:

  • Friends who listen to you
  • Online communities (where you feel safe and supported)
  • Trusted adults (like a teacher, youth worker, or family member)

You don’t need loads of people — just a few who really listen 🫶

🛑 Set boundaries

It’s OK to protect your space and feelings.

That might mean:

  • Saying no
  • Walking away from situations that don’t feel right
  • Choosing who you share things with

You deserve to be treated with respect.

🎨 Find your way to express yourself

Talking isn’t the only way to feel heard.

You could:

  • Write things down (notes, journaling, messages)
  • Draw, paint, or create something
  • Listen to or make music
  • Create playlists that match your mood

Expressing yourself in different ways can help you process emotions and feel more understood.

❤️ Remember: your voice matters

Your thoughts and feelings are important.

You deserve:

  • To be listened to
  • To be taken seriously
  • To feel understood

When people listen and acknowledge how you feel, it can build confidence and help you feel more secure.

🤝 Feeling Connected to People

Feeling connected means knowing that you belong, that people care about you, and that you’re not on your own.

Everyone needs connection — it helps you feel happier, more confident, and better able to cope with challenges.

🌟 What does feeling connected mean?

It’s not about having loads of friends. It’s about having people you feel comfortable with and can be yourself around.

You might feel connected when:

  • You feel listened to and understood
  • You can be yourself without worrying what others think
  • You feel included and accepted
  • You enjoy spending time with someone

Feeling connected helps you feel supported and less alone.

💬 Start with small connections

You don’t have to do big things — small moments can make a difference.

You could:

  • Say hello or start a conversation
  • Sit with someone at lunch
  • Send a message to check in with a friend
  • Join in with a group activity

Small steps can lead to stronger friendships over time.

🎯 Find people who share your interests

It’s often easier to connect with people who like similar things.

You might try:

  • Clubs, sports, or activities
  • Creative groups (art, music, gaming, drama)
  • Volunteering or community groups

Shared activities help you meet people in a natural way.

📍 Find a youth group near you

If you’re not sure where to start, you can explore youth groups and support services in your area.

👉 Hampshire Youth Access (HYA)

Hampshire Youth Access works with different organisations across Hampshire to offer support, advice and activities for young people.

🗣️ Be a good friend too

Connection works both ways.

You can build stronger relationships by:

  • Listening when someone talks
  • Being kind and respectful
  • Checking in on people
  • Including others

Good friendships are built on trust, respect and shared experiences.

💡 Be yourself

You don’t need to pretend to fit in.

  • Be honest about who you are
  • Share your interests
  • Find people who like you for you

The best connections happen when you feel safe being yourself.

💭 What if you feel lonely?

Feeling lonely happens to lots of people — even if it doesn’t always look like it from the outside.

You might feel lonely if:

  • You don’t feel understood
  • You don’t have people to talk to
  • You feel left out or different

💙 You are not alone in feeling this way.

❤️ Remember: connection grows over time

  • Friendships don’t always happen instantly
  • It’s OK if things don’t work out with some people
  • New opportunities will come

You’re still finding your people — and that’s completely OK 🌱

💡 Need extra support?

If you’re struggling with connection, feeling lonely, or just need someone to talk to, there are people who will listen — without judgement 💙

📞 Helplines and support (free and confidential)

  • 📱 Childline (for under 19s)

Call 0800 1111 to talk to someone. You can also chat online at childline.org.uk. You can talk about anything — big or small.

  • 💬 Shout (text support)

Text SHOUT to 85258. A trained volunteer will text you back and listen.

  • 📞 Samaritans (for any age)

Call 116 123 (free, 24/7). If you’re struggling or need someone to listen, give them a call.

💙 Remember

  • You don’t have to go through things on your own
  • It’s OK to ask for help
  • There are people who care and want to listen

🤝 Feeling Connected to People

Feeling connected means knowing that you belong, that people care about you, and that you’re not on your own.

Everyone needs connection — it helps you feel happier, more confident, and better able to cope with challenges.

🌟 What does feeling connected mean?

It’s not about having loads of friends. It’s about having people you feel comfortable with and can be yourself around.

You might feel connected when:

  • You feel listened to and understood
  • You can be yourself without worrying what others think
  • You feel included and accepted
  • You enjoy spending time with someone

Feeling connected helps you feel supported and less alone.

💬 Start with small connections

You don’t have to do big things — small moments can make a difference.

You could:

  • Say hello or start a conversation
  • Sit with someone at lunch
  • Send a message to check in with a friend
  • Join in with a group activity

Small steps can lead to stronger friendships over time.

🎯 Find people who share your interests

It’s often easier to connect with people who like similar things.

You might try:

  • Clubs, sports, or activities
  • Creative groups (art, music, gaming, drama)
  • Volunteering or community groups

Shared activities help you meet people in a natural way.

📍 Find a youth group near you

If you’re not sure where to start, you can explore youth groups and support services in your area.

👉 Hampshire Youth Access (HYA)

Hampshire Youth Access works with different organisations across Hampshire to offer support, advice and activities for young people.

🗣️ Be a good friend too

Connection works both ways.

You can build stronger relationships by:

  • Listening when someone talks
  • Being kind and respectful
  • Checking in on people
  • Including others

Good friendships are built on trust, respect and shared experiences.

💡 Be yourself

You don’t need to pretend to fit in.

  • Be honest about who you are
  • Share your interests
  • Find people who like you for you

The best connections happen when you feel safe being yourself.

💭 What if you feel lonely?

Feeling lonely happens to lots of people — even if it doesn’t always look like it from the outside.

You might feel lonely if:

  • You don’t feel understood
  • You don’t have people to talk to
  • You feel left out or different

💙 You are not alone in feeling this way.

❤️ Remember: connection grows over time

  • Friendships don’t always happen instantly
  • It’s OK if things don’t work out with some people
  • New opportunities will come

You’re still finding your people — and that’s completely OK 🌱

💡 Need extra support?

If you’re struggling with connection, feeling lonely, or just need someone to talk to, there are people who will listen — without judgement 💙

📞 Helplines and support (free and confidential)

  • 📱 Childline (for under 19s)

Call 0800 1111 to talk to someone. You can also chat online at childline.org.uk. You can talk about anything — big or small.

  • 💬 Shout (text support)

Text SHOUT to 85258. A trained volunteer will text you back and listen.

  • 📞 Samaritans (for any age)

Call 116 123 (free, 24/7). If you’re struggling or need someone to listen, give them a call.

💙 Remember

  • You don’t have to go through things on your own
  • It’s OK to ask for help
  • There are people who care and want to listen

When things feel stressful or overwhelming, your body can go into “fight or flight” mode.

Learning ways to calm yourself can really help.

You could try:

  • listening to music
  • going for a walk
  • taking a break from your phone
  • breathing slowly (in for 4 seconds, out for 6)

Childline has a Calm zone with lots of great ideas on how to relax 

When things feel stressful or overwhelming, your body can go into “fight or flight” mode.

Learning ways to calm yourself can really help.

You could try:

  • listening to music
  • going for a walk
  • taking a break from your phone
  • breathing slowly (in for 4 seconds, out for 6)

Childline has a Calm zone with lots of great ideas on how to relax 

Doing something fun or creative isn’t a waste of time — it actually helps your brain process emotions.

You could try:

  • gaming, either with someone or alone
  • sport or exercise
  • drawing, music or creating
  • anything that helps you switch off

🔍 Try different things

You don’t have to find “your thing” straight away.

You could:

  • Try something new
  • Go to a club or group
  • Watch how others do it first
  • Give something a go more than once

It’s normal if some things don’t feel right — keep exploring.

⏰ Make time for it

Life can get busy, but even a small amount of time can help.

You could:

  • Set aside 10–20 minutes
  • Do something after school or in the evening
  • Build it into your routine

Even short bursts of enjoyable activity can make a difference.

💭 What if you don’t enjoy anything right now?

Sometimes, when you feel low, stressed or overwhelmed, it can feel like nothing is enjoyable — and that’s OK.

💙 You’re not alone in feeling like this.

🌱 Things that might help

Start small

  • Try something simple (music, a short walk, watching something you like)
  • Don’t put pressure on yourself to enjoy it straight away

Think about what you used to like:

  • Is there something you used to enjoy?
  • Could you try a small version of it again?

Doing something fun or creative isn’t a waste of time — it actually helps your brain process emotions.

You could try:

  • gaming, either with someone or alone
  • sport or exercise
  • drawing, music or creating
  • anything that helps you switch off

🔍 Try different things

You don’t have to find “your thing” straight away.

You could:

  • Try something new
  • Go to a club or group
  • Watch how others do it first
  • Give something a go more than once

It’s normal if some things don’t feel right — keep exploring.

⏰ Make time for it

Life can get busy, but even a small amount of time can help.

You could:

  • Set aside 10–20 minutes
  • Do something after school or in the evening
  • Build it into your routine

Even short bursts of enjoyable activity can make a difference.

💭 What if you don’t enjoy anything right now?

Sometimes, when you feel low, stressed or overwhelmed, it can feel like nothing is enjoyable — and that’s OK.

💙 You’re not alone in feeling like this.

🌱 Things that might help

Start small

  • Try something simple (music, a short walk, watching something you like)
  • Don’t put pressure on yourself to enjoy it straight away

Think about what you used to like:

  • Is there something you used to enjoy?
  • Could you try a small version of it again?

Keeping fit, is an important part of being healthy. It is suggested that you do an hour of exercise a day and this can range from moderate activity like walking to school or college or scooting to school, to vigorous activity such as running or tennis. This might sound like a lot but you are probably already doing it.

Why is being active important?

Physical activity and sport is good for your health and fitness.

It is good for you because:

  • Being active can help you to keep a healthy weight.
  • It lowers the chance of you getting health problems like diabetes and heart disease and helps you live longer.
  • It can improve your confidence and help you make new friends.
  • You can learn new skills
  • It can help you improve your sleep and memory
  • It can make you healthier and feel good

Playing sport does not mean you have to take part in competitions against other people. You can play a sport for fun at your local sports club or community centre. A community centre is a place where people get together and take part in activities.

Physical activity and sport is for everyone and anyone can take part.

What types of moderate activity can I do?

  • walking to school/college/uni
  • playing in the playground/park
  • riding a scooter
  • skateboarding
  • rollerblading
  • walking the dogs
  • cycling on flat ground, or on ground that's a little bit hilly
  • plus loads more ...

What types of vigorous activity can I do?

  • energetic dancing 
  • swimming 
  • running 
  • gymnastics
  • football
  • rugby 
  • martial arts 
  • cycling fast, or on ground that is really hilly 
  • plus loads more ...

A good first step to get more active is to visit your local Leisure Centre website and see what activities they offer:

What kind of sports can I do?

Sports are really easy to pick up and many of them you can do with friends down at the park, many of them don't require a lot of equipment and can be really easy to set up, such as football, skateboarding, extreme Frisbee for example. Other sports may require a specialist pitches, equipment and clothing.

How do I decided what sport to do?

The best way to decide which sport to do is to think about your strengths and skills, and ultimately which sport(s) you prefer, its no good starting football when you love tennis.

Think about whether or not you like being part of a team, as a team sport like; football, rugby or basketball might be better otherwise choosing a sport where you are the only player like; tennis, swimming or running.

Joining a club:

Joining a club is a great way to meet new people along with meeting people that enjoy the same sport(s) as you. 

You might already be part of a school or college team but progressing onto a club is a good way of developing your skills further, accessing more competitions or finding like minded people.

More helpful information for teens on being more active.

Keeping fit, is an important part of being healthy. It is suggested that you do an hour of exercise a day and this can range from moderate activity like walking to school or college or scooting to school, to vigorous activity such as running or tennis. This might sound like a lot but you are probably already doing it.

Why is being active important?

Physical activity and sport is good for your health and fitness.

It is good for you because:

  • Being active can help you to keep a healthy weight.
  • It lowers the chance of you getting health problems like diabetes and heart disease and helps you live longer.
  • It can improve your confidence and help you make new friends.
  • You can learn new skills
  • It can help you improve your sleep and memory
  • It can make you healthier and feel good

Playing sport does not mean you have to take part in competitions against other people. You can play a sport for fun at your local sports club or community centre. A community centre is a place where people get together and take part in activities.

Physical activity and sport is for everyone and anyone can take part.

What types of moderate activity can I do?

  • walking to school/college/uni
  • playing in the playground/park
  • riding a scooter
  • skateboarding
  • rollerblading
  • walking the dogs
  • cycling on flat ground, or on ground that's a little bit hilly
  • plus loads more ...

What types of vigorous activity can I do?

  • energetic dancing 
  • swimming 
  • running 
  • gymnastics
  • football
  • rugby 
  • martial arts 
  • cycling fast, or on ground that is really hilly 
  • plus loads more ...

A good first step to get more active is to visit your local Leisure Centre website and see what activities they offer:

What kind of sports can I do?

Sports are really easy to pick up and many of them you can do with friends down at the park, many of them don't require a lot of equipment and can be really easy to set up, such as football, skateboarding, extreme Frisbee for example. Other sports may require a specialist pitches, equipment and clothing.

How do I decided what sport to do?

The best way to decide which sport to do is to think about your strengths and skills, and ultimately which sport(s) you prefer, its no good starting football when you love tennis.

Think about whether or not you like being part of a team, as a team sport like; football, rugby or basketball might be better otherwise choosing a sport where you are the only player like; tennis, swimming or running.

Joining a club:

Joining a club is a great way to meet new people along with meeting people that enjoy the same sport(s) as you. 

You might already be part of a school or college team but progressing onto a club is a good way of developing your skills further, accessing more competitions or finding like minded people.

More helpful information for teens on being more active.

What you need to know

Whilst you're a teenager your body is going through a number of changes and your brain is still developing, it's best if these changes are made whilst your body is being supported by a healthy diet.

Eating healthily doesn't mean cutting out all the stereotypically yummy foods, but it does mean eating them less often and in smaller amounts. It's important during teenage years, when eating healthily, to actually eat, not to skip meals, substitute food for drinks or start unreasonable diets. There are a number of nutrients that are super important whilst you're still growing and developing, so a balanced diet is essential.

Having a balanced diet:

Having a balanced diet is really important, you need to eat a mixture of all the foods on the Eatwell plate to make sure you are getting all the right nutrients. Avoiding too much fat, sugar and salt as well will make sure that you getting a really balanced diet.

Try to choose a variety of foods from the four main food groups: 

  1. bread, rice, pasta, potatoes and other starchy foods - these are carbohydrates 
  2. fruit and vegetables - aim to eat at least 5 of these a day
  3. milk and diary foods 
  4. meat, fish, eggs, beans and other non-diary sources of protein

Stay hydrated by drinking mainly water, as well as milk and occasionally juice.

Top tips for teenager's healthy eating:

What else can help me adopt healthier habits?

Changing your habits can be challenging. And developing new habits takes time. Use the tips below to stay motivated and meet your goals. You can do it!

Make changes slowly

Don’t expect to change your eating, drinking, physical activity, or sleeping habits overnight. Changing too much too fast may limit your chances of success.

Figure out what’s holding you back

For example:

  • Are unhealthy snack foods at home tempting you?
  • Are the foods and beverages you’re choosing at your school cafeteria or job too high in sodium, saturated fats, and added sugars?
  • Do you overeat to help manage stress related to your family or your future?

Have a think and come up with a plan to change these habits.

Set a few realistic goals

If you drink sugar-sweetened beverages every day, try replacing some of them with water. Once you are drinking fewer of these beverages for a while, try cutting out all of them. Then set another goal, like getting more physical activity each day. Once you have reached one goal, add another.

Get help from friends and family

Get a friend at school, someone at home, or a co-worker at your job to support your new habits. Ask a friend, brother or sister, parent, guardian, or co-worker to help you make changes and stick with your new habits.

Get the facts - British Nutrition's YouTube Channel

What if I don't like eating something?

We all vary in the foods we like, it is not unusual to experiment with different eating habits - you may have decided to become vegetarian or tried changing your diet to improve your health. Keep trying new foods to find the ones that you do like.

Don't worry, all foods fit! None are off limits. 

What if I'm concerned about my diet?

Some eating patterns can be damaging. Problems with food can begin when we use food to cope with those times when you are bored, anxious, angry, lonely or sad. 

Having a poor diet you may notice that your skin may become more spotty or your hair may become more greasy, so in order to keep yourself looking well you need to eat well.

Where can I get help?

Beat

Advice for anyone worried they might have an eating disorder. Support on the Helpline is available by phone, email, webchat through our social media accounts and by letter. Calls to the helpline are free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK and do not appear on itemised bills.

Hampshire Public Health Nursing Service – Chat health

Chat Health 11-19 years

07507 332160 - The Chat Health text service is an easy way for young people in Hampshire aged 11-19 to confidentially ask for help with a range of issues. The service is manned by qualified school nurses who have a wealth of experience of working with young people and provide support with a range of health and wellbeing issues, including nutrition advice and with eating disorders. As well as giving advice, the team can signpost to appropriate services and other support. 

What you need to know

Whilst you're a teenager your body is going through a number of changes and your brain is still developing, it's best if these changes are made whilst your body is being supported by a healthy diet.

Eating healthily doesn't mean cutting out all the stereotypically yummy foods, but it does mean eating them less often and in smaller amounts. It's important during teenage years, when eating healthily, to actually eat, not to skip meals, substitute food for drinks or start unreasonable diets. There are a number of nutrients that are super important whilst you're still growing and developing, so a balanced diet is essential.

Having a balanced diet:

Having a balanced diet is really important, you need to eat a mixture of all the foods on the Eatwell plate to make sure you are getting all the right nutrients. Avoiding too much fat, sugar and salt as well will make sure that you getting a really balanced diet.

Try to choose a variety of foods from the four main food groups: 

  1. bread, rice, pasta, potatoes and other starchy foods - these are carbohydrates 
  2. fruit and vegetables - aim to eat at least 5 of these a day
  3. milk and diary foods 
  4. meat, fish, eggs, beans and other non-diary sources of protein

Stay hydrated by drinking mainly water, as well as milk and occasionally juice.

Top tips for teenager's healthy eating:

What else can help me adopt healthier habits?

Changing your habits can be challenging. And developing new habits takes time. Use the tips below to stay motivated and meet your goals. You can do it!

Make changes slowly

Don’t expect to change your eating, drinking, physical activity, or sleeping habits overnight. Changing too much too fast may limit your chances of success.

Figure out what’s holding you back

For example:

  • Are unhealthy snack foods at home tempting you?
  • Are the foods and beverages you’re choosing at your school cafeteria or job too high in sodium, saturated fats, and added sugars?
  • Do you overeat to help manage stress related to your family or your future?

Have a think and come up with a plan to change these habits.

Set a few realistic goals

If you drink sugar-sweetened beverages every day, try replacing some of them with water. Once you are drinking fewer of these beverages for a while, try cutting out all of them. Then set another goal, like getting more physical activity each day. Once you have reached one goal, add another.

Get help from friends and family

Get a friend at school, someone at home, or a co-worker at your job to support your new habits. Ask a friend, brother or sister, parent, guardian, or co-worker to help you make changes and stick with your new habits.

Get the facts - British Nutrition's YouTube Channel

What if I don't like eating something?

We all vary in the foods we like, it is not unusual to experiment with different eating habits - you may have decided to become vegetarian or tried changing your diet to improve your health. Keep trying new foods to find the ones that you do like.

Don't worry, all foods fit! None are off limits. 

What if I'm concerned about my diet?

Some eating patterns can be damaging. Problems with food can begin when we use food to cope with those times when you are bored, anxious, angry, lonely or sad. 

Having a poor diet you may notice that your skin may become more spotty or your hair may become more greasy, so in order to keep yourself looking well you need to eat well.

Where can I get help?

Beat

Advice for anyone worried they might have an eating disorder. Support on the Helpline is available by phone, email, webchat through our social media accounts and by letter. Calls to the helpline are free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK and do not appear on itemised bills.

Hampshire Public Health Nursing Service – Chat health

Chat Health 11-19 years

07507 332160 - The Chat Health text service is an easy way for young people in Hampshire aged 11-19 to confidentially ask for help with a range of issues. The service is manned by qualified school nurses who have a wealth of experience of working with young people and provide support with a range of health and wellbeing issues, including nutrition advice and with eating disorders. As well as giving advice, the team can signpost to appropriate services and other support. 

Sleep is really important for teens because your bodies and brains are still growing and changing. Getting enough sleep helps you stay healthy, learn better and cope with everyday life.

Supports your mental health

Sleep and mental wellbeing are closely linked.

  • Good sleep helps you manage emotions and feel more positive
  • Not getting enough sleep can make you feel low, anxious or stressed

Helps your body grow and stay healthy

During sleep, your body repairs itself and grows.

  • Growth hormones are released and your immune system is strengthened
  • It helps you recover from illness, exercise and everyday activities

Helps you manage stress and behaviour

Sleep supports emotional control and decision-making.

  • It helps you cope with stress and challenges
  • Poor sleep can lead to mood swings, impulsive behaviour and difficulty managing emotions

The Teen Sleep Hub

The Teen Sleep Hub offers advice and practical tools to help young people improve their sleep and understand how it affects their health and wellbeing. It provides clear information about sleep patterns, routines and the science behind sleep, helping teens make informed choices.

The page includes tips, quizzes and resources to help young people identify their sleep habits and make positive changes to their routines. It also explains the benefits of good sleep, such as improved mood, concentration and overall wellbeing.

Overall, it is a practical, easy-to-use resource designed to support young people to build healthier sleep habits and feel more in control of their wellbeing.

Visit the Teen Sleep Hub

Sleep is really important for teens because your bodies and brains are still growing and changing. Getting enough sleep helps you stay healthy, learn better and cope with everyday life.

Supports your mental health

Sleep and mental wellbeing are closely linked.

  • Good sleep helps you manage emotions and feel more positive
  • Not getting enough sleep can make you feel low, anxious or stressed

Helps your body grow and stay healthy

During sleep, your body repairs itself and grows.

  • Growth hormones are released and your immune system is strengthened
  • It helps you recover from illness, exercise and everyday activities

Helps you manage stress and behaviour

Sleep supports emotional control and decision-making.

  • It helps you cope with stress and challenges
  • Poor sleep can lead to mood swings, impulsive behaviour and difficulty managing emotions

The Teen Sleep Hub

The Teen Sleep Hub offers advice and practical tools to help young people improve their sleep and understand how it affects their health and wellbeing. It provides clear information about sleep patterns, routines and the science behind sleep, helping teens make informed choices.

The page includes tips, quizzes and resources to help young people identify their sleep habits and make positive changes to their routines. It also explains the benefits of good sleep, such as improved mood, concentration and overall wellbeing.

Overall, it is a practical, easy-to-use resource designed to support young people to build healthier sleep habits and feel more in control of their wellbeing.

Visit the Teen Sleep Hub